Advent Declares that We, at long last, Have a Place to Call Home!

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For Christians around the world, Advent is a season of expectant waiting.  It’s a season where we reorder our lives around the coming of the Messiah.  Why?

We believe that the Messiah’s coming is a good thing.  A great thing!

The earliest accounts convey His coming as a historic event, bringing with it the potential to change the world.  An event that is designed to usher in an age of God’s good for the world.

The in-breaking of this news was as frightening as it was astounding.  After the angel …
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I Am No Blogger.

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It’s official.  I am no blogger.  How have I come to realize this fact?

Simple.

Bloggers blog, consistently!

I am also learning that I am not a writer.  How have I come to realize this fact?

Writers write, consistently!

I don’t consistently blog or write.

Don’t get me wrong: I love blogging, and I love writing.

Avocation or Vocation?

But I am discovering that blogging is more of an avocation (hobby or activity beyond my regular responsibilities, work, and service) than a vocation (my daily responsibilities, work, and service).

In …
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How Hurricanes Help Develop Habits for the Long Journey Home!

In Addictions, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Fully Awake, Habits, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Small Groups by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Here we go again.

Hurricane Dorian is wreaking havoc already, and it’s still days from making landfall.  I have lived in Florida nearly all of my adult life.

As such, I am accustomed to dealing with hurricanes.

By saying that I am accustomed to dealing with hurricanes, I don’t mean to imply that I know how to handle them. Instead, I mean that expecting them, preparing for them, and doing my best to endure them is now a matter of habit.

Indeed, activities I used to give considerable forethought, are …
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Y-Axis Reality and The With-God Life!

In Christian Leadership, Christianity, Church, Church Leadership, Culture, Desire, Formation, Ministry, Pastoral Ministry, Social Imaginaries, Social Imaginary, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Ask yourself the following questions:

Why am I here? Do I serve a purpose in this world? If so, do I know what that purpose is? What’s the meaning to life? Who am I? What are my dreams, hopes, and aspirations? When do I last remember feeling happy or experiencing a deep sense of contentment?

Did you have trouble coming up with satisfying answers to some of these questions?

If so, you’re like most of us who struggle with coming to grips with answers to life’s most important questions about …
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Redeveloping the “Y” Axis!

In Brokenness, Christian Leadership, Contemplation, Formation, Psalms, Spiritual Formation, Transformation by Bizgainey2 Comments

If you remember, I finished my last post (here) with the assertion that the church is in position to restore what I call a y-axis reality.  Borrowing the term x-y axis,” we first learned in geometry.

The x-axis is, of course, the horizontal (time-bound/natural) plane.  For our purposes, the x-axis represents a life lived and experienced on a horizontal playing field. On this horizontal playing field, all that you see is all that there is.

No reason to look up or out.

There is nothing, or no one, there.…
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Becoming “Y” Axis People!

In Formation, Social Imaginary, Soul-Care by Bizgainey2 Comments

Since the launch of Disruptus (2014), I’ve written primarily about three overarching topics/ideas:

Spiritual formation.  Articles concerning the recovery of its place of primacy within the modern church.  Particularly as spiritual formation and soul-care shapes and molds spiritual leadership and congregational life. Pornography, Addiction, Recovery. Recovery issues related to compulsive sexual disorders that plague our world and are directly connected to the mass production of pornography.  The porn industry, with global revenue in the multi-trillions of dollars, is arguably the largest industry in the world that commodifies the human body…
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What You Need to Know Before You Join a Recovery Group

In Addictions, Formation, Habits, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Social Media, Technology by Bizgainey1 Comment

Have you ever asked yourself, “What will it take to beat this addiction?”  I sure did.

Many times.

Over.

And.

Over.

And.

Over.

Again.

My wife asked it of me about a thousand times more than I asked it of myself.

Here’s the deal: If you’re asking, at least you are acknowledging that you have a problem!

Many Men Never Ask the Question: “What will it take?”

Most men – many men – never get that far.

While I can’t tell you every step you’re going to need to take, …
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Want to Recover From Porn Addiction? Discover the Power of Habit Formation!!

In Addictions, Christianity, Consumption, Contemplation, Culture, Formation, Pornography, Zombies by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

If you want to recover from your porn addiction, you will need to discover the power of habit formation!

Discovering and developing new habits are central to your freedom!

Why?

Many reasons, but one is that the porn habit you are now starving is going to get hungry.

When the addiction or compulsion gets hungry, it’s going to want you to feed it – as you have done so many times in the past.  That’s why the closer you are to your addiction, the more fiercely you have to fight …
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How do I “Unsee” All Those Pornographic Images?

In Brokenness, Consumption, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Have you ever wondered how to unsee all those pornographic images you’ve spent years viewing?

If so, you’re not alone.  In fact, that’s a common – and often misunderstood – part of the journey.  Especially when you want to make the transition from a life saturated by free-porn to a life that’s finally porn-free!

Once you decide it’s time to live a porn-free life, you begin to notice how hard it is to get all those images out of your head.

Many of us find ourselves fighting images every moment …
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Why I Can’t Stop Writing About Porn and How I Hope to Help You Break Free!

In Addictions, Consumption, Formation, Pornography, Sex and Violence by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

I want to pick up where I left off many weeks ago: writing about the church – specifically, the church as a new kind of community.

A few weeks ago, however, I realized that I have to begin writing about pornography, again.

Honestly, I don’t want to write about pornography.  I wish it (porn, I mean) simply weren’t a “thing.”

But it is a “thing.”  It’s a terribly toxic “thing” that I suspect is worse than you know.

Solicitation and Sex-Trafficking in Our Backyard

In our small community, the authorities …
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