Five Reasons Why I Am a Man Against Porn

In Addictions, Consumption, Habits, Loneliness, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography by Bizgainey1 Comment

Five Reasons Why I Am A Man Against Porn

I am an outspoken critic of porn.  I am also a proponent of putting an end to the global industry it has spawned.

My goal in all of this, however, is to offer hope and encouragement to men and women who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior disorders.

Most, if not all of these disorders, are connected to porn consumption and/or addiction!

This “work” against porn, in support of love (yes, the two are mutually exclusive) began over ten years ago.

My …
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Recognizing Triggers and Traps in Overcoming Porn Addiction, Part 1

In Addictions, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Technology by Bizgainey1 Comment

I struggled with porn addiction for years before I realized that certain moments, thoughts, people, or places were triggers.  These triggers, when encountered, would ignite my desire and drive my decision-making process.†

After years of encountering them – and failing in that moment – I learned to recognize them and be on guard against them.  I’ve also learned that you can survive these triggers – even thrive in the midst of them, with a few steps and/or strategies.

A couple of the triggers and traps I’ve noticed through the years …
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I Love My Wife AND Friday Night Lights!!

In Football, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Parenting, Pornography, Vero Beach Fighting Indians by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

In Vero Beach, where I live, high school football is a weekly tradition. For some, we might even call it a ritual.

We usually buy four season tickets and attend most of the home games. The team is fun to watch. Coach Jankowski and his staff do a stellar job (in my opinion) getting the team ready to play every Friday night: under the lights!

This year, our middle child is a rising freshman. He loves football.  He cannot wait to put on the pads and play ball for the …
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Parenting: Sharing Leadership Helps Us Savor the Journey!

In Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Parenting, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Parenting is a deeply rewarding and relentlessly restless journey.  If you are anything like us (Melissa and me), then you have often experienced times of immense parenting joy as well as seasons of unending parenting angst.  Who among us hasn’t felt deep love for our children one minute and wanted to shake them into oblivion the next?

Put simply: parenting is as rewarding and wonderful as it is costly, complex and confusing. It’s no wonder many of us feel like failures, from time to time.  It’s no wonder parents carry …
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