Would Dr. Seuss ‘Google’ in a Boat?

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“I would not eat them here or there I would not eat them anywhere. I would not eat green eggs and ham. I do not like them Sam I Am.”

Ah, yes. Dr. Seuss. Many of us have grown up reading and hearing his stories. Green Eggs and Ham no doubt chief among them all. Did you know that his stories were designed to teach vocabulary words?

Knowing this original intention, as a boy, would have ruined the whole experience for me.…
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Thirty Is The New Eighteen

In Culture, Formation, Ministry, Parenting, Uncategorized by Bizgainey3 Comments

Failure To Launch, featuring a trim and fit Matthew McConaughey and slim and curvy Sarah Jessica Parker, made Emerging Adulthood look cool: sexy.  Emerging or postponed adulthood is the term used to describe an entire generation of humanity caught somewhere between the ages of 18 and 30(ish).

Emerging adults  struggle with their journey into the world of adulthood.  Apparently emerging or postponed adulthood is more of the norm than the exception these days.

Consider the following excerpt from a piece in the NY Times a few years ago:

“The 20s …
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I Love My Wife AND Friday Night Lights!!

In Football, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Parenting, Pornography, Vero Beach Fighting Indians by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

In Vero Beach, where I live, high school football is a weekly tradition. For some, we might even call it a ritual.

We usually buy four season tickets and attend most of the home games. The team is fun to watch. Coach Jankowski and his staff do a stellar job (in my opinion) getting the team ready to play every Friday night: under the lights!

This year, our middle child is a rising freshman. He loves football.  He cannot wait to put on the pads and play ball for the …
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A Few Simple Ways Any Parent Can Minimize the Impact of Porn!

In Addictions, Christian Leadership, Freedom, Habits, Parenting, Pornography, Purpose and Meaning, Uncategorized by Bizgainey2 Comments

Tired of porn ruling your world, running your emotions, wrecking your home?

Tired of addiction consuming you, your spouse, your kids, your friends, and neighbors?

In this and the next few posts – I am going to outline a few simple ways any parent/person can minimize the impact of porn!

I am not offering boundaries or a list of protective measures one might take in this effort. Establishing boundaries and developing guidelines for technology usage is crucial. I have made those suggestions elsewhere on this blog.

These posts will dig …
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Parental Porn Watch Protocol, Pt. 4:

In Parenting, Pornography, Uncategorized by Bizgainey4 Comments

Biz and Melissa’s Parental Porn Watch Protocol

Melissa and I have enjoyed sharing our journey as it relates to parenting – specifically parenting with a view toward guarding the treasure of our heart!  Each post has been building up to this one – the one in which we are going to share some of the protocols we have established as a family. While these remain ever changing and always challenged, they represent the core components of our PPWP and provide many moments of discussion and engagement.

You may remember the …
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Parenting: Sharing Leadership Helps Us Savor the Journey!

In Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Parenting, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Parenting is a deeply rewarding and relentlessly restless journey.  If you are anything like us (Melissa and me), then you have often experienced times of immense parenting joy as well as seasons of unending parenting angst.  Who among us hasn’t felt deep love for our children one minute and wanted to shake them into oblivion the next?

Put simply: parenting is as rewarding and wonderful as it is costly, complex and confusing. It’s no wonder many of us feel like failures, from time to time.  It’s no wonder parents carry …
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