Porn Consumption and Twelve (or so ) Alarming Trends Series!

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Porn Consumption and Twelve (or so) Alarming Trends, Pt. 2

Did you know that 4,599,000,000 hours of porn were watched last year alone.

That number is four billion, five hundred and ninety-nine million hours of porn viewed last year.

Let’s reflect on that number for a few minutes.

There are a total of 8,760 hours in a year.  That’s less than ten thousand. If one person were to watch that much porn, over a life time, they would require a life expectancy of somewhere in the five century range.…
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A Dozen (or so) Alarming Trends Directly Related to Porn Consumption.

In Addictions, Consumption, Freedom from Porn, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Sex and Violence by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

If statistics related to porn consumption are correct, then it’s safe to assume that close to eight out of ten men view porn on a consistent basis.

If they are, as some believe, inflated, then it’s still safe to assume that somewhere between six out of ten men view porn consistently.

By consistent, I mean an average of several times a month.

That’s a pretty conservative estimation.  Admittedly, stats on viewing are difficult to determine, since viewing habits are secretly kept and rarely shared.  As one who has viewed porn …
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Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids!

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Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids.

Have you heard of the Blue Whale Challenge?

No?

Stop what you are doing and Google it.  Better yet, get on your Instagram and key in #thebluewhalechallenge.

Be prepared, this game is being blamed for over 100 suicides in Russia and the UK.

It’s made its way to our shores and recently claimed the life of a 15 year-old  Texas child.

It’s time you learn what it is, how to prepare your child, and ways to …
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A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool

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A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool Warning: Explicit Content Ahead!  The content of this post deals directly with pornography and the immediate access our children have to it through social media apps.  As such, the language and specific wording is more explicit than many of my posts. I believe, firmly, this is a message that must be voiced, heard, and shared.   I do, however, recognize that many may find it offensive.  It’s not my intent to offend, but to inform.  I plan on writing a…
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Parenting Against Porn’s Mid-week Minute- This Year’s Dirty Dozen!

In Freedom from Porn, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Social Imaginary, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Welcome to the Disruptus Renovatus Mid-Week Minute, a Parenting Update.  This is a tool (often a short read) designed to assist parents who want to protect their children and grandchildren from the influence of porn!

Many times I’ll provide helpful tips and hints related to technology and the media-crazed teen world.

Other times I’ll offer stories from my experience of parenting and struggle with porn addiction.

Most of these posts will highlight, however, porn’s ongoing, and often subterranean, influence in our culture.  May of us, in the midst of our …
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Five Practical Pointers for Parenting Tweens in an Age of Porn!

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Parenting is tough work.

Particularly these days.

Parents today are forced to raise children who are exposed multiple levels of input at ages early than ever before.

For example, most parents are likely unaware of what happened during the years of 2008 – 2011 regarding pornographic content available to tweens.

Do you remember what you were doing between the years of 2008 – 2011?

Not sure?

Yeah.  Me either.

Pornography and Preteens or Tweens

But I can tell you what Pornographers were doing.  They were trapping our preteens and tweens.…
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Love as the Experience of Knowing and Being Known

In Christian Leadership, Community, Culture, Formation, Love, Pornography, Social Imaginary by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Love, the experience of knowing and being known, is a game-changer!

Love certainly changed the game for me!

I can easily list a host of “loves” that have produced change and transformation in my life:

The love of my parents governed some of the most critical changes in my life from the outset! The love of my wife has picked up where my parents left off. Her deep love has proven to be transformative on a multitude of levels as I have grown – while married to her – into…
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One Ounce of Prevention . . . Kids and Porn

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“One ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

This axiom, credited to Benjamin Franklin, is as true today as it was then.  Especially if you want to help your kids steer clear of pornography.

This quick post is designed to do that very thing: help you help your kids steer clear of pornography.

I am a father of three teenagers.  I am a man who has won hard-fought freedom from porn’s grip.  This ‘ounce’ of prevention is designed to give you some handles so that you can do …
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Christmas Morning: Opening the Gift of a Porn-Free Life!

In Addictions, Christmas, Consumption, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The Christmas season is one of gift-giving and receiving.  In all likelihood you will, on Christmas morning, celebrate this gift-exchange tradition with friends and family.  You may gather around a tree, in a living room, near a fireplace, etc. and open gifts shared by those who love you and those whom you love.

If you happen to be struggling with your porn addiction during this season, you’ll likely be disengaged from this life-giving moment.

You may, in fact, totally check out.

Indeed, if you’ve been trolling the web for porn …
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Does One Bad Moment Make Me a Monster?

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During the early days of my journey out of porn addiction, I remember a time when I had been porn-free for about 90 days (yes, I numbered freedom by days, not months).  It was, at that time, the longest I had ever gone without clicking a website, watching a video, or trying to get porn in any form I could.

Then one day I crashed, badly.  All the signs were there; I just didn’t see them.  Either that or I simply refused to take note of them.

The triggers were:…
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